Oddities

You needed a new study to find this out........

Oh course women do most household chores... it was not that long ago where women were ranked just a hair above slaves. Their only saving grace was their beauty and sexual function and of course motherhood. They could not even VOTE until early last century. We, as a nation, tend to put stuff like that out of our mind these days because it is embarrassing to us now as a so-called civilized society, but the fact remains that women, like blacks and other people of non-pale color are just now beginning to awaken to the inequalities that STILL exist, not in the forefront of sensational news events, but in the subtle and secluded areas of our lives, the home, the place of employment, the stores. In this case, it is we, as men, who must tow that line now and then... the line we used to conveniently have women tow for us.

STUPID STUDY!

More propaganda as usual. Modern appliances have reduced housework astronomically since the 50's. Men on average work longer hours outside the home and mow the lawn, trim the shrubs, do house repairs, take car of the family cars and other equipment issues, take out the garbage, walk the dog, provide security for the family just to name a few. Give "men" a break !

actually, I do ALL of the housework, care for ALL of the children , do ALL of the yard work, and do ALL of my car repair jobs...while my husband sits in his chair...messed up part? I dont get paid.

Good points, James.

To this, I add, ON AVERGE, husbands do the taxes, address the mortgage/rent, secure the future financing of the family (investments).

Yes, due to single parents, and working moms, this is changing... but on average, this is still the way it is.

These studies are trite, tired, boring and sexist.

RW, Beth, Sandra... Either:
1. Admit your husbands are not typical and you made poor choices and you responsible for that.
or
2. Get new husbands: there are many out there and we are not like the ones on TV: we are good, decent and we share in the home obligations
3. Maybe try getting one and not basing your assumptions on a lack of experience.

It is time we admit that, ON AVERAGE, wives care for the home that is inside the house; husbands care for the home that is outside the house.

Yes it is changing.. but until both extremes are equally shared, let's stop bashing men, shall we?

If both work outside the home, especially full time, I think the house work should be shared equally. If one doesn't work, the homemaker should be just that, the homemaker. But this doesn't give license to dumping clothing and such all over the place. Dishes should be placed in the sink or rinsed and placed in the dish washer, clothes to the laundry basket, preferably sorted and items put back where they taken from etc. Another factor is the type of job one has. Construction work is physically demanding for example and a man worn out due to wife demands is unsafe on the job to himself and others. He should be able to physically recover at home and not be run ragged as some women do to their husbands.
At the risk of great anger, I think American women these days are overly self-centered. They expect everything to be in their favor and whine incessantly or raise holy hell when it isn't. They are not out for parity but domination and when a guy refuses that line, they're victims, and he's an abuser, unloving, or worse. I'm in favor and try to practice parity in marriage and all else in our society. Again, I believe most American women aren't out for parity but outright domination. Do some serious research in this area instead of just more male bashing.

Alethia, you too!
Then:
1. Admit YOU made the mistake
2. Divorce him.
Or...
You could nail yourself to a crucifix... that would be a good way to blind yourself to the situation you are in.

You are at the extreme.
The average husband does his equal share.

Try having a husband that has allergies and hayfever throughout the spring and summer!! He can not mow the lawn, rake the lawn, walk the dogs, or spend much time outside once the trees start pollinating until the first frost. Then there is the dusting and vacuuming he cannot do because it will cause him to sneeze uncontrollably. He is not mechanical minded, just enough to take care of his own vehicles. My father taught me to change my own oil and tires. So don't go spouting off that we poor, defenseless females NEED and man to do all the outside chores and be our protector. It didn't take a study to figure out that women are the ones in the relationships that carry more of the chores and responsibilities. There are a lot of us wives/mothers that knew that already>

Tom: You are right on - especially the part about some women making poor choices. My wife and I had twins. I worked a very tough job with long hours at the time but I was up every night feeding one while she fed the other, etc., etc. When I got home I played with them constantly in addition to "my chores." Women out there - you have it better than anytime in history. Quit complaining and while you're at it how about signing up for the Army and going to war at the rate men do !!!

For the record...I do most of the daily cleaning, all of the cooking, and the vast majority of the laundry. I am so sick of this stereotype. I think the women need to find better husbands.

Dragon_spirit,

Apparently, your father did NOT teach you how to select an average mate, wisely.

You bombed out there.
Now, get back to the kitchen where you whip yourself and justify your power... and cook.

I can teach you how: I do that. And I am sure you will find many different stories and objections... but we are talking here about averages, not annecdotal evidence. The data in the story did NOT assess the work done outside the house.

Here is the sad truth:

Women marry a man thinking he will change and he doesn't.

Men marry a woman thinking she will never change and she does.

I don't know which is worse.

Mr. Stafford really needs help if he feels this is one of the most beneficial subjects to conduct a study on. DUHHHH.

...on average...Not so in my house. I do EVERYTHING. When I say that I mean, EVERYTHING. My husband is in school. So I work 40 hours a week, take care of our child after work, and take care of the yard, the dishes, the laundry, painting, broken appliances....E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.

I also have a FEW girlfriends who have the same problem.

So there is the reason for this study. Times are changing. Men "who protect the family," thanks for that. At least you are attempting to contribute. Those scary burglars and murderers that you protect us from on a daily basis are well worth the chores and exhaustion.

Winslo,

That is not a truth.
That is your experience.

There are good men and bad men.
There are good women and bad women.

That is a truth.
You are simply engaging in melodramatic justification of your abysmal choices so you can bash all men.

Bash yourself: you made the choice.

Hmmm.... Wives do more house work? And your point? Gee let me guess. Men spend more time at work.

Right now I’m doing laundry while my wife goes to visit her mother. I got the better end of that deal!

VJ12
You too...

Apparently, you choose friends as stupid,
arrogant and self-centered as you do.

So your assessment of the data if flawed.

I can list as many men who DO the work.

Now, I suggest: divorce your husband and YOU go to school. Shut up and deal with your choices.

Men are good husbands and good fathers.
The data is out there, but we don't enjoy looking at it: rather, women enjoy bashing men: just look at the television shows.

Another pointless study. Imagine all the wasted money that goes into these studies, confirming the obvious. How could anyone even agree to take on this study?

Women have done more chores and house duties since the beginning of time. It's always going to be that way forever. if the wives complain, then find a new husband. but do you honestly think the next guy is going to do any better?

This is stupid I've spent the past four weekends clearing and logging trees in my backyard, before that I painted every room in my house, plus I commute four hours a day while my wife works part time, of course she does more housework. Unless she wants to break out the chainsaw and start felling trees with me that's the way it'll stay.

Eric says:
"Women have done more chores and house duties since the beginning of time."

And I could say:
"If women ruled the world, we'd still be living in grass huts."

Both comments are fundamentally sexist in their dismissal of either gender.

The past was different. In the past, men created the science, literature, art, music, philosophy, and even war.

Women, stayed home and did chores

(and yes, there are exceptions: catherine the great, golda meir, that english woman who fought the Romans, joan of arc... and so on... but we are talking averages)

Men have done their share.
In time, it will equilibrate.
But let's stop doing studies taht ONLY examine what happens INSIDE the house.
For a home extends to a neighborhood and beyond and is more than four walls.

My wife's vehicle was in poor running condition when we met. In fact she was getting a ride from someone else on that eventful day. Today, she has a very nice home, yard, well maintained vehicle and a person with an imagination and direction to a better life. Yes, she doing pretty good now days. She does 90% of the household chores but look at what she gained. And yes, she wins most of the real arguements. I do not think that has anything to do with the household chores ... she is far more interesting then that chore. Thank you very much!

Why does everyone get so upset about this stuff. Let's be realistic. Women have gotten the short end of the stick. Let's forget about what has happened to other people in the past. We can't change that. If that is all we harp on about, nothing changes. I am getting married in 3 months. We don't live together. She helps me get household things done. I, in turn, help her with things she needs to get done. If a couple decides at the very beginning who will do what and stay with and talk about it once and awhile to adjust to changes, it will work out. She does things for me because she loves me. I do things for her because I love her. It sounds to me like that all the women that are complaining are just taking the problems for what they are. You have the power to change things. DO IT! Guys, look at what you are doing or not doing and makes sure that you are being fair about things as well. No one is innocent when it comes to life at home. And to the scientists doing this research, we appreciate you working to help us better understand ourselves, but enough. We have enough problems that need a lot of people researching and stuff like this is just trivial and just forces everyone to take a side. It doesnt bring us together, it tears us apart and it won't really have that great of an effect so guys give it a rest.