Oddities

You needed a new study to find this out........

Oh course women do most household chores... it was not that long ago where women were ranked just a hair above slaves. Their only saving grace was their beauty and sexual function and of course motherhood. They could not even VOTE until early last century. We, as a nation, tend to put stuff like that out of our mind these days because it is embarrassing to us now as a so-called civilized society, but the fact remains that women, like blacks and other people of non-pale color are just now beginning to awaken to the inequalities that STILL exist, not in the forefront of sensational news events, but in the subtle and secluded areas of our lives, the home, the place of employment, the stores. In this case, it is we, as men, who must tow that line now and then... the line we used to conveniently have women tow for us.

STUPID STUDY!

More propaganda as usual. Modern appliances have reduced housework astronomically since the 50's. Men on average work longer hours outside the home and mow the lawn, trim the shrubs, do house repairs, take car of the family cars and other equipment issues, take out the garbage, walk the dog, provide security for the family just to name a few. Give "men" a break !

actually, I do ALL of the housework, care for ALL of the children , do ALL of the yard work, and do ALL of my car repair jobs...while my husband sits in his chair...messed up part? I dont get paid.

Good points, James.

To this, I add, ON AVERGE, husbands do the taxes, address the mortgage/rent, secure the future financing of the family (investments).

Yes, due to single parents, and working moms, this is changing... but on average, this is still the way it is.

These studies are trite, tired, boring and sexist.

RW, Beth, Sandra... Either:
1. Admit your husbands are not typical and you made poor choices and you responsible for that.
or
2. Get new husbands: there are many out there and we are not like the ones on TV: we are good, decent and we share in the home obligations
3. Maybe try getting one and not basing your assumptions on a lack of experience.

It is time we admit that, ON AVERAGE, wives care for the home that is inside the house; husbands care for the home that is outside the house.

Yes it is changing.. but until both extremes are equally shared, let's stop bashing men, shall we?

If both work outside the home, especially full time, I think the house work should be shared equally. If one doesn't work, the homemaker should be just that, the homemaker. But this doesn't give license to dumping clothing and such all over the place. Dishes should be placed in the sink or rinsed and placed in the dish washer, clothes to the laundry basket, preferably sorted and items put back where they taken from etc. Another factor is the type of job one has. Construction work is physically demanding for example and a man worn out due to wife demands is unsafe on the job to himself and others. He should be able to physically recover at home and not be run ragged as some women do to their husbands.
At the risk of great anger, I think American women these days are overly self-centered. They expect everything to be in their favor and whine incessantly or raise holy hell when it isn't. They are not out for parity but domination and when a guy refuses that line, they're victims, and he's an abuser, unloving, or worse. I'm in favor and try to practice parity in marriage and all else in our society. Again, I believe most American women aren't out for parity but outright domination. Do some serious research in this area instead of just more male bashing.

Alethia, you too!
Then:
1. Admit YOU made the mistake
2. Divorce him.
Or...
You could nail yourself to a crucifix... that would be a good way to blind yourself to the situation you are in.

You are at the extreme.
The average husband does his equal share.

Try having a husband that has allergies and hayfever throughout the spring and summer!! He can not mow the lawn, rake the lawn, walk the dogs, or spend much time outside once the trees start pollinating until the first frost. Then there is the dusting and vacuuming he cannot do because it will cause him to sneeze uncontrollably. He is not mechanical minded, just enough to take care of his own vehicles. My father taught me to change my own oil and tires. So don't go spouting off that we poor, defenseless females NEED and man to do all the outside chores and be our protector. It didn't take a study to figure out that women are the ones in the relationships that carry more of the chores and responsibilities. There are a lot of us wives/mothers that knew that already>

Tom: You are right on - especially the part about some women making poor choices. My wife and I had twins. I worked a very tough job with long hours at the time but I was up every night feeding one while she fed the other, etc., etc. When I got home I played with them constantly in addition to "my chores." Women out there - you have it better than anytime in history. Quit complaining and while you're at it how about signing up for the Army and going to war at the rate men do !!!

For the record...I do most of the daily cleaning, all of the cooking, and the vast majority of the laundry. I am so sick of this stereotype. I think the women need to find better husbands.

Dragon_spirit,

Apparently, your father did NOT teach you how to select an average mate, wisely.

You bombed out there.
Now, get back to the kitchen where you whip yourself and justify your power... and cook.

I can teach you how: I do that. And I am sure you will find many different stories and objections... but we are talking here about averages, not annecdotal evidence. The data in the story did NOT assess the work done outside the house.

Here is the sad truth:

Women marry a man thinking he will change and he doesn't.

Men marry a woman thinking she will never change and she does.

I don't know which is worse.

Mr. Stafford really needs help if he feels this is one of the most beneficial subjects to conduct a study on. DUHHHH.

...on average...Not so in my house. I do EVERYTHING. When I say that I mean, EVERYTHING. My husband is in school. So I work 40 hours a week, take care of our child after work, and take care of the yard, the dishes, the laundry, painting, broken appliances....E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.

I also have a FEW girlfriends who have the same problem.

So there is the reason for this study. Times are changing. Men "who protect the family," thanks for that. At least you are attempting to contribute. Those scary burglars and murderers that you protect us from on a daily basis are well worth the chores and exhaustion.

Winslo,

That is not a truth.
That is your experience.

There are good men and bad men.
There are good women and bad women.

That is a truth.
You are simply engaging in melodramatic justification of your abysmal choices so you can bash all men.

Bash yourself: you made the choice.

Hmmm.... Wives do more house work? And your point? Gee let me guess. Men spend more time at work.

Right now I’m doing laundry while my wife goes to visit her mother. I got the better end of that deal!

VJ12
You too...

Apparently, you choose friends as stupid,
arrogant and self-centered as you do.

So your assessment of the data if flawed.

I can list as many men who DO the work.

Now, I suggest: divorce your husband and YOU go to school. Shut up and deal with your choices.

Men are good husbands and good fathers.
The data is out there, but we don't enjoy looking at it: rather, women enjoy bashing men: just look at the television shows.

Another pointless study. Imagine all the wasted money that goes into these studies, confirming the obvious. How could anyone even agree to take on this study?

Women have done more chores and house duties since the beginning of time. It's always going to be that way forever. if the wives complain, then find a new husband. but do you honestly think the next guy is going to do any better?

This is stupid I've spent the past four weekends clearing and logging trees in my backyard, before that I painted every room in my house, plus I commute four hours a day while my wife works part time, of course she does more housework. Unless she wants to break out the chainsaw and start felling trees with me that's the way it'll stay.

Eric says:
"Women have done more chores and house duties since the beginning of time."

And I could say:
"If women ruled the world, we'd still be living in grass huts."

Both comments are fundamentally sexist in their dismissal of either gender.

The past was different. In the past, men created the science, literature, art, music, philosophy, and even war.

Women, stayed home and did chores

(and yes, there are exceptions: catherine the great, golda meir, that english woman who fought the Romans, joan of arc... and so on... but we are talking averages)

Men have done their share.
In time, it will equilibrate.
But let's stop doing studies taht ONLY examine what happens INSIDE the house.
For a home extends to a neighborhood and beyond and is more than four walls.

My wife's vehicle was in poor running condition when we met. In fact she was getting a ride from someone else on that eventful day. Today, she has a very nice home, yard, well maintained vehicle and a person with an imagination and direction to a better life. Yes, she doing pretty good now days. She does 90% of the household chores but look at what she gained. And yes, she wins most of the real arguements. I do not think that has anything to do with the household chores ... she is far more interesting then that chore. Thank you very much!

Why does everyone get so upset about this stuff. Let's be realistic. Women have gotten the short end of the stick. Let's forget about what has happened to other people in the past. We can't change that. If that is all we harp on about, nothing changes. I am getting married in 3 months. We don't live together. She helps me get household things done. I, in turn, help her with things she needs to get done. If a couple decides at the very beginning who will do what and stay with and talk about it once and awhile to adjust to changes, it will work out. She does things for me because she loves me. I do things for her because I love her. It sounds to me like that all the women that are complaining are just taking the problems for what they are. You have the power to change things. DO IT! Guys, look at what you are doing or not doing and makes sure that you are being fair about things as well. No one is innocent when it comes to life at home. And to the scientists doing this research, we appreciate you working to help us better understand ourselves, but enough. We have enough problems that need a lot of people researching and stuff like this is just trivial and just forces everyone to take a side. It doesnt bring us together, it tears us apart and it won't really have that great of an effect so guys give it a rest.

There's no pleasing women today. American men do twice as much housework as before, but still not enough huh?.

40 years of radical American Feminism has got every man in this country wringing their limp wrists trying to figure out how to please their women. American feminists won't be happy until men grow breasts, bear children, and have periods - then, and only then, will American women finally say there we've exacted our revenge on the 'MAN'.

When my husband and I moved in together I made it very clear to him that "I am not the maid". And he made it clear to me that "he is not the garbage man". Therefore, the chores are done equally in our household. In the kitchen, I have one part of the counter, he has the other. I like the kitchen neat and orderly, no dirty dishes. He likes leaving dirty dishes on the counter. Instead of nagging and trying to change him, I let him have his own space. The dirty dishes always end up in the dishwasher eventually. Neither one of us feels like its the other's responsibility to do any particular chore. If you have a spouse who has the expectation that you are there as their servant, its up to you to correct the misconception or behavior. When I hear wives complaining about their husbands, my only response is "Well, you trained them that way". And the same goes with husbands who constantly respond to their whining wives. If you're not happy with your situation- then change YOU.

I think your results would vary depending on where you do your study. Oh, has anyone noticed that only 18 year old males are required to sign up for selective service? Where's the equality in that? I am a firm believer in equal rights and equal responsibilities that come with those rights.

"Right now I’m doing laundry while my wife goes to visit her mother. I got the better end of that deal!"

At least men haven't lost their sense of humor!

TZ:

I agreed with all you wrote until I got to the critical phrase: "...trained them that way.."

Men are not farm animals to be trained.

While I admire the equity in your home, may I suggest that next time, you find another word to describe how you both arrived at your agreement?

Despite all appearances to the contrary, the preponderance of sexism in this country is a subtle, insidious, ongoing and acceptable disparagment of men.

And this will only change when men stand up and reject all forms of sexism as women have done.

Women create work for themselves. Don't blame men for your nesting tendencies. You don't need to make the bed every day. That is pointless. If you put clothes in the drawer, you just have to get them out later. If you eat out of the pan or kettle, that is one less dish to clean. Note that it said men did one hour less of house chores and women did 7 hours more. That is a net gain of 6 hours of chores. Oh and then there are the kids. The world is overpopulated, we dont need any more kids, and if a woman really wants kids, it is her own fault she has created more work for herself.

Morons think that there is no difference between the sexes, or races etc. etc.... Though none should be esteemed greater than another the fact that we are all different in varied aspects is obvious even to those with a somewhat properly functioning brain. Since we men only use half. Has anyone ever heard of a "nesting instinct?" It exists in nature and is properly placed within the gender who holds the esteemed position of "life bringer otherwise known as childbirth" It is natural for a woman to see and act on natural instincts to nurture and protect. Men are kind of oblivious about such matters in case you haven't noticed. There are always exceptions but nature/God designed things to have unique and befitting qualities. Men DO have some redeeming qualities too. Let's not try to make everything/everybody exactly equal all the time. It's just not true. Everyone's not exactly the same. Midgets should not be playing in the NBA and Shaq wouldn't make a good jockey either.

stop fighting about it and get a maid --

stop fighting about it and get a maid --

I believe many people still have views in what the role of the husband and wife and that is where the problems lay. My husband believes that I should do household chores (because of my gender) but he forgets that we both have careers-we are both active duty military. His beliefs are based upon how he was raised; mine are based upon how I was raised. My parents both had full time jobs therefore the chores in my house were divided. His parents however had one working parent, therefore the mom did everything. However, we did discuss our chores before marriage and I gave him the option to decide which chores he wanted. Although he is not thrilled with his chores (an occasional argument flares), I am happy I don't have to nag constantly. Oh by the way for the comments about women not in the military, we have both deployed to Iraq.

Well I guess I'm in the minority right now. I work away from home 28 hrs a week and spend 5hrs a week driving to and fro. My husband keeps the house clean, the laundry done ,fixes me a bite for breakfast, prepares our evening meal, does the dishes (even if it only means empty the dishwasher and refill it), keeps the lawn mowed and trimmed, and the pond and filters clean. Also plants and cares for the flower gardens, keeps both cars serviced. On top of all that he does the grocery shopping. I wouldn't trade places with him for anything in the world. PS: he is 74 and I'm 69

I do mostly everything, and from what i see, that is basically the case with most families I know. I love my hubby dearly, but if ever I found I were to be alone again. i'd never marry again. My mom was widowed and she'd never marry again. The men who dated her would get so frustrated, why didn't she want to get married, or move in???? "Why would i want a man to pick up after him?and cook for him? and do his laundry? I can hire someone to fix my house once and a while, doesn't make up for 24/7 maid duty. I'll date, thank you." ...what a hot ticket! Good for her! i laughed so loud. good for you!

yea another study told us guys who do more dishes get more sex and I have been doing dishes since last 6 years of my marriage and haven't seen any change in my conjugal life.

Here's an idea for another story.
Lazy Wives? Husbands Do More Yard Work.

You want to see the hard working wifes, go to starbucks and the mall after they drop the kids at school! Man they got it made having a provider who puts 8-12 hours a day at work then comes home to naging and bitching. Ladys go read Dr. Laura's book you probably know which one.

Women have no one to blame for this but themselves. If both husband and wife are working full-time, there is no reason for each partner not to do his or her full share. (A partner staying at home or working part-time should do the larger share.) But in my experience, women don't insist that men do their full share. Or they insist that chores be done perfectly and end up doing the tasks themselves "because it's easier." I know a lot of men who are willing to do more around the house but are tired of being criticized for not being perfect when they do. No, I am not a man who hates women working outside the home; I am a woman tired of seeing a lot of women make these mistakes and then whine about the consequences.

Boo-frickin'-hoo! Call us when women start paying for drinks and dinner, when a woman who lives off her husband is looked down upon with as much contempt as a man who lives off his wife, when the first woman to do something that's been done by men for decades doesn't need a big parade afterwards, and when Lifetime produces a made-for-TV movie in which the male characters all have good intentions and everything is exactly as it seems.

here's the thing Frank, yard work? how often? I'll tell you that housework is every day, eveyr freakin day, and for hte record, d o you really plant flowers? weed them? water the garden? trim the bushes? clean up the toys from the kids? doubt it. what is 'yard work'? Mowing the lawn??? whoodie doo. as my mom says, she hires a teenager to do that twice a month. hardily qualifies for picking up your clothes, cooking for you, cleaning up yhour dishes, food shopping, laundry, folding it...EVERYDAY! I keep the peace by not getting in arguments over and over an dover about the same thing, so I let it go, but yeah it grates on me, it DOES Make me see my husband as LESS attractive ot me, because honestly, someone you have ot pick up after a like achild is NOT someone I am going to get hot over, and other guys at work or whatever are more attractive, it's true. it's not rocket science either. It's obvious, dont you think? As I said, If ever I fin myself alone at some time, I'll date, maybe have somebody for sex eveyr now and then, take me out ot restaurants, but i never see myself living wiht a man again. just being honest!

Hey Ed,

I'll add one more to your justified list...

All this talk of women making less money then men in business: the glass ceiling?

Where is the talk about the concrete basement?

Namely: 90% of all workplace fatalities are men; 70% of all workplace injuries are men.

No... women want to make the same money as men (justified request and I support it), but it seems women overlook the price men pay for some of those jobs.

Jessbottom

I suggest two choices for you:

1. Shut up and divorce your husband and find a decent man - we are out there.

2. Scream even louder at your husband and nail yourself to a crucifix.

Decide...

Oh... and Jess...
If you choose the latter: the self-crucifixtion.

Make sure that when you slam each nail in, you sing out "I am woman, hear me roar!"
by Helen Reddy.

to the guy who says a women likes off a man???? do you mean mothers? and what exactly happens if your wife takes off on you and your children are your responsibility 24/7???? your job performance would go right down the toilet. YOU would have ot take off everytime they are sick, YOU need to be at the bus stop, or find someone who will and then LEAVE WORK immediately when you find out they wont and YOU will have to be ones to show up late for work after brinign them to school everyday. If you think caring for children has no value or will cost you nothing that says a whole lot about you. And if you need to hire someone to do your laundry, clean your house, and make your food or you have to start buying premade food, you'll see that what your wife does actually has very read monetary value and it is what allows you to have that career that you take for granted. time is money. Your wife freeing up your time IS allowing you to make more money. Geesh! At least my husband is VERY aware of that after I fell ill a few years ago and he realized what it is actually like if I were to dissapear. Wow. I feel bad for your wife! poorthing!

Thanks for your advice but no thanks. I do love my husband quite a lot. He's a fantastic father. What i think you dont' realize is that I'm very very typical, in fact, i'm probably happier with my husband than most women I know. I will happy no matter where or what lot i have in life. I just like to enjoy life.l But if we are going ot have this topic, I'm just offering honest opinion. I don't need a solution. I'm good, thanks. worry about yourself. Don't think this is the opinion of a miserable women. this is the opinion of women who smiles everyday and asks her husband how his day was and a women with a lot of friends and activities. It's just my littler secret honest opinion. :-) deal with it. this is honesty.

Jess says:
"It's just my littler secret honest opinion. :-) deal with it. this is honesty."

Sorry Jess, but by their nature, 'secret opinions' are fundamentally dishonest.

If you are content with your husband, I am happy for you.
Now please get off the platform of diminishing men. Either blatantly diminish your husband, here, in public, or shut up.

Dear James,

You said: "Modern appliances have reduced housework astronomically since the 50's." Yes, it's true, but women didn't work out of the home in the 50's.

You said: "Men on average work longer hours outside the home" Maybe, but it could be because the women have to leave their jobs at the end of the day to rush out to get the kids and get dinner started. Then at night, when everybody is sleeping, we finish up the work we brought home from the office.

You said: "(men) mow the lawn, trim the shrubs, do house repairs, take car(e) of the family cars and other equipment issues" Maybe, but they don't do this everyday, week after week. By the way, in my house we share these chores.

You said" "(men)take out the garbage, walk the dog" Umm, I take out the garbage too, and the hubby takes out the dog because HE wanted the dog. I have a cat. And yes, I clean the litter box (even when I was pregant and I was supposed not to change it. Hubby said it was MY cat.)

And the security thing? My alarm system does that.

So give me a break.

So, sue, it seems you agree with the men here.

Where's your beef?

sorry tom, I am the boss of me, not you. You are obvioulsy the one uncomfortable with what I'm saying. not me. I'm good. by nature, secret opinions are thingsI choose to keep to myself, and if you are allowed a bird's eye view of what women talk about when usually only in eachother's company, you should take this opportunity to ask yourself if there is anything you can learn by it. COuples very often keep things in to keep the peace and to not hurt the feelings of soemone they care about. My husband is a great fantastic father and a good man so no, i'm not going ot diss him. Sorry to dissapoint you. but I get to vent a little steam quietly if I want to. this is what women talk like. take what you want from it. Take nothing, fine. What tells me your wife and I would have very interesting similar conversations ??????? good day! I have a life to live. ;-)

This story should be a case study in journalism:

How To Write a Great Story.

Step 1: Make up some facts
Step 2: Print them
Step 3: Profit!

Here's what the ACTUAL LINKED STUDY says:

"Excluded from "housework hours" were household chores such as lawn care, home repairs, or washing the car, work men typically perform, in order to for the study to reach the desired conclusion."

Hmmm. If we exclude the housework men do, then we can make it look like women are not equal and do more housework.

And the women just eat this drivel right up, not even bothering to do the basic research before allowing their hysteria to emerge.

Isn't this evidence that women are not as intelligent as men?

Have a nice day.

This is just another outlet for gender bashing.

Perhaps next time you can print some _real_ news!

As a woman, let me just say that if it isn't in Cosmo, I don't read it.

Wives do more housework? Good, at least they know their role!

So Sue: I'm sure glad I'm not married to you !

Would someone please calculate the number of men AND WOMEN who have been killed in all our nation's wars, law enforcement officers killed, people in dangerous occupations (i.e., miners) killed, etc., etc., and then let's compare numbers. P.S. You can even throw in deaths from childbirths if you want to.

"Women marry a man [sic] thinking he will change and he doesn't. Men marry a woman [sic] thinking she will never change and she does. I don't know which is worse."

What is worse is the absence of grammar in your post. Please learn how to use the proper verb and noun agreements before posting again.

Then, take a logic course. Your observations of the circle of your hillbilly friends is not representative of the total population.

Cutting the lawn is housework.....
WOMEN DON'T CUT THE LAWN

Modern appliances make it possible to get more done, but the net result is raised standards, not saved time. In my childhood, we reversed the top sheet and moved it to the bottom, getting a clean top sheet and pillowcase once a week. Nowadays both sheets and pillowcases get put through the laundry. Previously our bath towels were expected to last all week and our wash cloths several days. Now we take out a fresh towel and wash cloth every time we want one. My grandmother didn't drive, so someone took her to the grocery store once a week. If she wanted to shop downtown, she took the bus. These trips had to be carefully planned. It's true she did cleaning, laundry (with a wringer washer and clothes lines), ironing (eighteen dress shirts a week), sewing, and so forth in more time-consuming ways than we do now, but she didn't have to write checks, take pets to the vet, get the car serviced, drop off dry cleaning, or do a whole lot of other time-consuming errands.

Much housework is optional, and much of the rest of it can be done at a convenient time. If the family cooperates by picking up after themselves and pitching in on heavy chores, housework can be kept under control.

Recently I spent a week with the flu, in bed most of the day and all night. No laundry got done, meals were from outside, and dust and dirt accumulated. I couldn't get out to buy groceries. But we lived through the inconvenience. Housework is pretty flexible when everybody helps when needed.

As a mens rights activist, I Find this study disturbing!!

Joe Stein:

Lighten up buddy. Have you heard of hyperbole? I bet you're "hen-pecked"! Eee Haw !

Folks...see past the hysteria...google and goto glenn sacks dot com..web site..

P.S. If anyone is working on the men vs. women killed calculations be sure and include "killed while doing housework."

I love how all the men are getting defensive. Laughable bunch of whiners. Here they are, sitting on the computer, talking about what they've done lately. Spare us. Go clean your skidmarks off the commode. Don't have time for a long message, gotta go do the laundry.

Aimee
"I love how all the men are getting defensive."

You love it don't you...and guess what..wer'e just getting started!!

as it should be.

Each time Aimee talks she sets back the feminist movement 50 years, so let her talk.

James,

You should actually look up the term "hyperbole". It seems it is _you_ who doesn't understand the term.

What a retard.

Women . . . you give them an inch, they want a mile.

I'm from the old school. When I got married my job is too clean, cook, care for the children, while my husband worked. I don't have to work outside of the house and as long as he brings home the money (good money, thank God), I'll stay home and do my job. I don't work 24-7 like a slave, sure I take time off and I don't have a boss to watch over me. I love my life, I get involved in my kids school activities, their trips, hang with the other mom neighbors. I have it pretty easy.

Fred: Give James a break here. Remember, when you're blogging is never a good idea to mess with someone's grammar, grammer, grammor or whatever. Just go with the thoughts and the debate. You can go back to Lincoln's speeches and find some grammar whoppers but he was a great debator. If you can't debate then stay out of the fray.

those truly interested in seeing past the hysteria should google the term..
"media lace curtain" coined by Dr. Warren Farrel

Of course men love their women to do all the housework, which I have no problems with that, but most men lie and say they're at one place but they're really at another with their b.i.t.c.h.e.s. Hmm no wonder the bills never paid, they pay their babes at the motels.

I just have to chime in and say that I have an amazing husband who works hard to provide for our family! He puts in his time at work and I put in my time at home. Yes, my job is currently more physically demanding with the "chores" and taking care of the kiddos; however, my husband's job is demanding in other ways. He has lots of responsibility on his shoulders to do a GOOD job at work to provide for our family! I enjoy fixing him dinner and allowing him to relax a bit or play with the kiddos when he gets home! I have been very blessed to have the gift of being able to stay home with my kiddos...the least I can do is the cleaning and try to make my home a relaxing atmosphere to raise our family together:) When I worked and helped with that burden, we shared the chores in the evenings or on weekends. Now that I am home...If I get behind on laundry or something, I just have to put a little note on his "honey do" board and he is more than happy to help me out! With life busy, sometimes I ask for something and he honestly doesn't remember that it needed to be done. He loves having the board as much as I do. I just put on the top three things that I believe are priorities that I need his help with. With this system, I don't have to ever nag or ask again! I just leave it there and know that he will get to it when he has a moment. We don't do "chores" on the weekends often, nor in the evenings. If it didn't get done, it can usually wait...time spent together as a family is very important to us. He does so much as the head of our household and I love him dearly! He has been an incredible friend, lover, father to my children, and provider to our family! He carries the responsibility for providing food for our family, a house to sleep in, cars to drive, vacations to have, medical insurance, etc etc etc etc...the least I can do is his laundry, dishes, take the car for an oil change etc! ...better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife. Proverbs 21:19 When I am grumbly about "my" daily responsibilities, I only make my day harder, as well as everyone elses...and less fun...my choice effects everyone in my family! My desire one day is for my children to arise and call me blessed! Side Note: a little music helps chores go faster...a joyful instead of bitter attitude also helps the day go well:)

My wife and I split the work exactly 50/50. we keep a diary and use spreadsheets to keep track of time spent on chores, etc. Our sex life is great!

Women don't seem to count auto repair, plumbing, lawn care, and "fix this" on a par with 'housework'. I will not give them a "pass" on their oversight. If they want equal pay for equal work .... fine, do the damn work !

You're a good husband Joey Pants.

Well women want to run the show and be the boss, then I say let them. "I am woman, hear me roar as I do all the household chores"

There should be more husbands like Joey Pants. Housework can be split 50/50. My first husband used to help around the house, then he decided to be a couch potatoe and started ordering me around and got himself a girlfriend. I guess he didn't like the idea of me defending myself. Oh well his loss. My second husband, 25 years of marriage now, he helps around the house. He's a God Bless. I do more work around the house, he just helps gather the laundry, feeds the dog, walks the dog, we both tucked out kids in bed together, now they're big kids LOL. We both love to cook together. We just have so much fun and all we do is laugh a lot. Joey Pants and my husband are a gift from God.

Even though the man works hard at his job during the day, so does the woman who works hard at home during the day and don't forget during the evening too. So I'd say the women's job is longer than a 9-5 job. We start our day at 6am and quitting time is 11pm. Both jobs are demanding. One pays, the other doesn't. But a job is a job. And I don't see a problem for the hubby to help out a little. That is if he wants a nice warm home cooked meal and clean clothes!!!! I had to say that, I love it.

A Couple of serious points here:

1) I have read that this really goes back to a psychological "envy" thing. Most women at some point in their life wish they had been born a man. The reverse for a man is sel