Biden Announces White House Advisor on Violence Against Women

We have more CZARS than Russia ever did, but then we are MORE COMMUNIST too! This fraudulent president is going to bankrupt the USA just with the PAYROLL of all these Czars! THIS IS A COMPLETE TAKEOVER OF THE US GOVERNMENT! He's basically made the Congress totally useless - they have no power or oversight over these Czars!!

Why didn't you guys use the term "Czar"? 'Trying to soften the appearance of your man's power grabs?"

Let's start guessing about headlines for next year! "Reverend Wright Crowns Obama Caesar!"

Thank you for this. It's long overdue. I am struggling to start over after leaving my abuser, and it gives me hope to see attention being paid to the issue.

It is such a complicated issue, so many pieces to the puzzle. It's not just physical abuse, either. Financial abuse is a tool my abuser used to great effect to keep me there. Psychological abuse, too. I'd love to see more done to try to help survivors like me start over, to have a chance at an abuse-free life.

i learned it is wrong to beat up girls 30 years ago.while a republican was in office.imagine that!

There is a strange dynamic in these relationships; she needs to be hit as much as he needs to hit her. In some odd form of love, she sees his devotion in the eruption of anger. "If I didn't care so much, I wouldn't get mad".

To MissElaineous:

You Write....

'I know I'm using the most common scenario, I know that women hit their spouses and boyfriends.I know that gay men hit each other, as do lesbians.
I chose to go with the 98% of all cases'

98%? Where do you get that figure? According to the CDC, it happens to men much more then you think. Men are MUCH less likely to report an incident and when they do, they're usually not taken very seriously.

Keep in mind feminists who peddle ridiculas DV stats (1&3 women will be a victim of domestic violence) are including verbal and emotional abuse. While I certainly agree those are legitimate forms of abuse, claims of non violent abuse can be very subjective. When is it abuse, and when is he just being 'mean' to you.

I hate to say it, but the VAWA is feminist pork and fuels a very profitable victim industry.

Why is domestic abuse against men ignored? When I was in college my girlfriend at the time stabbed me in the neck with a pencil because she thought I was cheating on her. The pencil pierced a vein and I was bleeding pretty bad. I ended up in the hospital for about six hours. I pressed charges and she accepted a plea for a 'disorderly conduct'. She was given a $175 fine. In NY, a disorderly conduct is a simple violation -- much like a speeding ticket. My friends laughed hysterically. Talk about a double standard!

To skip

Kudos to you for "doing your part," and...

"Some kind of libertarian"? No, I think for myself. But it's nice that you haven't forgotten to make party affiliation an important part of this issue. Really. After all, it's only people in "the other party" (whichever one you're not in) who commit crimes or don't care about [fill in issue/problem].

Hopefully I've worded this in a way that's acceptable to the moderators... this time.

"I don't put up posters, so apparently I don't care."

I said that we all need to do our part, so if you are doing yours I'm not saying you don't care. Just don't knock the people putting up the posters. They're doing their part. If you're some kind of libertarian and think government is useless that is another debate entirely. I think it is the purpose and role of government to protect our citizens. And finally Yes I've spent my time in emergency rooms and talking to counselors and meeting with policemen and sitting in courtrooms and sheriff's departments getting PFAs and changing locks and sitting down with kids trying to explain about awful things that happened and why, and I can tell you firsthand that alot of this amateur speculative psychoanalysis posted by others here does absolutely nothing to refute the fact that victims need all the help they can get from government or anywhere else.

MisElaineous, well-said. But most people don't want to hear that. They want to hear that the government has a neat new department that will make people see the light and be better citizens.

To stop domestic violence, we need to understand the cycle. While the men who hit wives or girlfriends are easily villified as monsters, little is said about the women who run back to these men time and time again.
There is a strange dynamic in these relationships; she needs to be hit as much as he needs to hit her. In some odd form of love, she sees his devotion in the eruption of anger. "If I didn't care so much, I wouldn't get mad".
I know I'm using the most common scenario, I know that women hit their spouses and boyfriends.I know that gay men hit each other, as do lesbians.
I chose to go with the 98% of all cases.
Build all the shelters you want. Change the law so that the abuser automatically goes to jail.
The majority of abused women will go from the shelter right back to him.
They will bail him out of jail.
I don't know of any government program that taps into a person's mind, and changes their expectations from a partner.
I am a woman, and I've seen friends go right back after being beaten and thrown around. Usually, the only reason the police are called is to get him to calm down.
We are going to have to treat this just as we do drug and alcohol abusers. We can't help them until they realize they need to change.

Valerie Jarrett...now there's an unqualified lump. But she's Obama's mommy figure so he keeps her around.

...if you think we're going to resign ourselves that it's better to do nothing to try and help the victims you are very mistaken.
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If you interpret my posts as saying I'm resigned to the cycle and think nothing should be done, you are very mistaken. I just don't expect a government that can't handle ANYTHING well to "cure" the abusers or stop the abused from going back. And I mean THE government, not the Administration du jour.

I DO WHAT I CAN. Twenty years ago, last year, last month, last week, yesterday, today, and again tomorrow. I don't get weekends off. I could just hand a government brochure over to the woman who's lived 41 years in a hell that's left her a trembling, shredded wreck, or I could take action. Guess which one I chose today? I could tell a friend who's being abused that she should leave her home, or I can call the police. Guess which one I chose twenty years ago. I could step aside when a man tells me it's his God-ordained right to knock his wife down when she gets above herself, or I can step up and stop him. GUESS WHICH ONE ten years ago. I don't put up posters, so apparently I don't care.

And you?

I'd be happy if they added in a few programs to help battered victims and their children get out of their abusive homes. That seems to be why abuse has such a neverending cycle. The victims are often isolated by the abusers and have no means of escape.

There should also be more laws towards protecting the children involved. I have seen far too many cases where children end up with the abuser. Most victims will stay just to keep their children.

As a survivor of childhood abuse, it warms my heart to see that more steps are being taken to break the cycle of abuse. Please, if you are living at home with an abuser and need someone to talk to, do a web search for DailyStrength. Its a wonderful forum that has support groups for just about any problem.

"Has it worked? Do the posters in the public restrooms work? The commercials? The public school training sessions, the sensitivity trainings for adults, the billboards... it's all already out there."

If anyone has reached out for help--and many have including women I know--then it HAS worked. This is a battle that never ends. The next generation of abusers is being born right now and if you think we're going to resign ourselves that it's better to do nothing to try and help the victims you are very mistaken. To me there is little difference between those who call the numbers on the poster and those who put the poster up so they were inspired to call when they needed to. We all must do our part.

"I'm a fat smoker who thinks these programs are "easy target look what we did" garbage."

Right.

And just how do you know that for sure?
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Has it worked? Do the posters in the public restrooms work? The commercials? The public school training sessions, the sensitivity trainings for adults, the billboards... it's all already out there.

Those who "believe it might" are often the same people who turn away when they hear or see, so they don't have to deal with it. Someone, somewhere will come and save the day. Someone else.

Spend the money. I don't have any choice about how the government spends money. Have at.

And next time, pick up the phone. Notice the hurt. ACT on the pretty words in the brochures. THAT saves lives, at least temporarily.

Or go back to your safe, serene world and see it on the news, rally, urge the government to fix it and stop the pain, applaud new laws and czars and agencies. And don't tell me I don't know for sure.

A 'Czarina' no doubt. The one-sidedness of Obama is disturbing and telling. Does he not believe that ALL human beings (men, women, and children) deserve the right to be shielded from domestic violence? Or just women should be protected, ad nauseam? A feminista in the White House, aren't we lucky?

"I know. I KNOW. No brochures, posters or government agency is going to make a difference. God, I wish it could."

And just how do you know that for sure? If some of us believe it might, do you think the cost of some brochures and posters is too much to possibly save lives?